The other night Maxine and I watched a film on PBS about a group of fifty Canadian high school girls who were chosen to sail to England in 1953 to take part in the festivities surrounding the coronation of Queen Elizabeth II. “Coronation Girls” was surprisingly engaging from beginning to end. What most engaged me was the story of a dozen of them returning to England 70 years later to remember together their extraordinary experience from decades earlier.
The coronation was not all there was to their first trip. They spent seven weeks touring the British Isles, and apparently other parts of Europe as well. How could this not have been life-changing event for them all, the result of a wonderful gift from a visionary benefactor, one Garfield Weston?
As tokens of their journey, they had each received a medallion inscribed with this verse:
’Tis the set of the sails
And not the gales,
That determines the way they go.
Those words struck me as a worthy encouragement and challenge for young women just starting out their life journeys. As several of them were interviewed in 2023, they told the wide variety of life stories you might expect from such a group. What unified them was their experience of that first trip to England, of the history they’d witnessed, of the places they’d been, and of the opening wide of the world they would never forget. The trip had changed them all.
I looked up the entire poem from which that verse—slightly altered—was taken. Its author is the American poet Ella Wheeler Wilcox (1850-1919).
’Tis The Set of the Sail — Or — One Ship Sails East
But to every mind there openeth,
A way, and way, and away,
A high soul climbs the highway,
And the low soul gropes the low,
And in between on the misty flats,
The rest drift to and fro.
But to every man there openeth,
A high way and a low,
And every mind decideth,
The way his soul shall go.
One ship sails East,
And another West,
By the self-same winds that blow,
'Tis the set of the sails
And not the gales,
That tells the way we go.
Like the winds of the sea
Are the waves of time,
As we journey along through life,
'Tis the set of the soul,
That determines the goal,
And not the calm or the strife.
The poem strikes me a bit dated, as a sort of moralistic self-help piece, too optimistic to take seriously given the strength of the gales we face. Our age is replete with studies into the storms that push lives this way and that, and too often off-course, so much so that we are excused for finding and defending reasons our lives didn’t turn out as we’d hoped. There are plenty of storms to blame, and we have named them all. Wilcox’s poem sounds like an rah-rah graduation speech that no one today should take seriously
And yet, I hear truth in it—my truth. How often have I succumbed to a challenge or crises that I face with a too-facile resignation? “That’s just the way I am,” and “that’s just the way things are,” and the like. It takes less effort to deny my own agency than it does to allow myself to be pushed by the wind to wherever it might take me. The truth is that I may well have more power to determine how I respond to the realities around me, as well as to those that are within me, than I give myself credit for. Does any of that ring true for you?
As the “Coronation Girls” reflected on their own long lives, I found myself reflecting on mine. I think that’s really the beauty of the film, and I commend it to you. It’s on PBS Passport.



